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Stop Smoking For The Right Reasons And Succeed

Posted by Suzanne – November 29, 2010

If you are trying to stop smoking, it is good to take the time to ask yourself why you want to quit. And I know that to you, it may seem obvious, but you would be surprised to discover that the why can control your chances of success.

There is a kind of statement beginning with ¨When I¨. Here are a few examples.

  • When I make more money, I will no longer worry.
  • When I get a new job, I will be free.
  • When I stop smoking, my partner will stop nagging me.
  • When I give up smoking, my husband will buy me that car he is promising.
  • When I go on holiday, I will be able to relax.
  • When I stop smoking, my boyfriend will be kind to me and will propose.
  • When I quit smoking, my wife, who earns more than me, will respect me.
  • When I lose weight, I will find someone who loves me.
  • When I give up smoking, I will not be so anxious about the possibility of a heart attack or stroke.
  • When I give up smoking, I will no longer worry about getting lung cancer and leaving my children orphaned.

So basically, we tell ourselves that once we have that thing that we need, then we will be happy. However, there are many happy people the world over who are very poor, never go on holiday, or never get a new job. That is because happiness is a state of being, rather than a state dependent on a particular  achievement.

There are two ways of giving up smoking. One way involves at least some help to resolve the underlying emotional reasons, and another way does not. Do not get me wrong here; I am not suggesting that you have to spend money or see someone in order to stop smoking, there is also self-help. So let me explain more about the ¨When I¨ driver for stopping smoking. When we reach our goal of giving up smoking by going cold turkey, medication, or habit modification, we are happy for a while, but then there is something else we find ourselves needing. You may know of people who stopped smoking but gained weight overeating, or who became so irritable, they went back to smoking, or who one day out of the blue, picked up a cigarette and started all over again. But when they first stopped, they were happy. They had this great few months of feeling great. What happened? The reason is that we have not solved the root cause behind the need to stop smoking. So we think that stopping smoking will make us happy, but after the initial euphoria subsides, we are on the lookout for something again.

Time and time again, I have had clients come to me for stopping smoking just because their partner wanted it. And I usually weed them out, but some do slip through. My suspicion is that they genuinely tell themselves that they want to give up because of their own reasons, and for a while make themselves believe it. But this has a great deal of inherent problems. For someone who is a non-smoker to fall in love with a smoker and then insist that they stop, there is a problem. The non-smoker in that relationship for some reason fell in love with someone they find repugnant. It is good to ask why, what has gone wrong in the non-smoking partner´s life to cause them to seek out relationships with people they are incompatible with? And the smoker in that relationship is making a big lifestyle change only in order to keep the relationship. It is good to ask what has gone so wrong in the smoker´s life that they allow themselves to be controlled so strongly by their partner? There is a problem in the relationship dynamic here, and time after time, I find that either the smoker is not ready to stop as yet, or that the couple break up. It is not always so clear-cut, and there are many respectful non-smokers that ask their partners to stop; for example, if they are planning to have children soon.

Most people come to me to stop smoking because they are aware that if they continue, they will have heart attacks, strokes, and may get cancer of the lung, throat, or some other painful way of an early demise. And that is the norm. However, for some people, they are anxious that they may die of a smoking-related illness, and think to themselves that when they stop smoking, they will be safe from the diseases that terrify them. Can you see the difference here? One smoker is simply aware of the dangers of continuing smoking and is making a decision to change. Another smoker is terrified and anxious about the consequences of continuing smoking, and is driven not by a desire to be healthy but the need to avoid the terror situation of serious disease and death. Chances are that the latter smoker has some anxiety, whether diagnosed or not. What this person needs is to address the anxiety or nervousness. Simply stopping smoking will not last, because as the person´s anxiety returns after the initial no-smoking euphoria, the easiest and quickest way that person knows how to cope is to have a cigarette. And then the whole thing starts all over again.

Maybe you can ask yourself, what is the feeling you are trying to achieve by stopping smoking? Do you feel that you will be lovable or safe when you have lost the weight? In that case, are you not actually at some level thinking that you are unlovable or  unsafe as you are? The fact is that when you love yourself and forgive yourself and anyone else involved in whatever hurts you have suffered, you will have resolved the underlying reasons to smoking, and you will no longer need to medicate yourself with cigarettes or anything else instead. EFT, short for Emotional Freedom Techniques, is a great way to work on any emotional block in your path. Or if EFT is not for you, you can use EMDR, NLP, or whatever works for you.

So, ask yourself, what do you want to achieve by stopping smoking? If it is at least partly that you want to be loved or safe, this is exactly what you can work on to ensure that you are quitting for the right reasons. Because when you do, the results can last. And that is wonderful in every way.

© Suzanne Zacharia 2010. My name is Suzanne Zacharia and I am committed to spreading the word about health options. I believe that the more and better options one has, the more choice there is.

A virus caught along with 5 other students at university at the end of 1986, plus medical negligence, meant that I got smokers lung at a relatively young age. In desperation for help with my symptoms and quality of life, I turned to complementary therapy, and I have outlived one doctor’s prognosis by many years now.

I am now a complementary therapist, author of the Stop Smoking E-book at http://www.stop-smoking-ebooks.com and trainer specializing in energy healing. Want to use this article? You can, as long as you credit me with it and invite your readers to get my FREE book “EFT How-To For You” at http://www.EFT-Scripts.com

Is EFT an Instant Cure from Smoking?

Posted by Suzanne – November 19, 2010

EFT, which stands for Emotional Freedom Techniques, is a great tool that helps you help yourself. It is used for almost any physical or emotional condition. And it works relatively quickly. Because of that, and because professionals using it want to encourage others to use it, it is mainly the stories about fast recovery that abound on the internet and in the press. For example, most ex-smokers that I have helped in the UK to quit did so in one session with EFT and did not need to use EFT for smoking again; and I wrote about it to encourage others to quit. This leaves some users disappointed, as they think that the EFT is not working and give up. For example, about 70% quit in one session and 30% came back for more sessions. There was nothing wrong with the 30%. Not at all. They just had more blocks in their path that we needed to remove with EFT, and that´s perfectly OK.

Let me give an analogy. Most of us have used headache pills or powders at various points in our lives. And most people have a bottle or box of pain-relief pills in their home. The reason is that we might need them. And in that case, we might just pop a pill and the pain would go away and we would just get on with whatever it is we need to do. And I know that for a lot of us who prefer holistic alternative health, popping pills is not the answer, but hey, there were times when I have just wanted a pill and so took one. What I am trying to say is that as a society, we think nothing of taking a pill for a headache or other pain if needed. And that we do so because it works. We know it works, because the pain goes away, and then we can get on with our lives.

Let me show you this from a slightly different angle. We take a pill for a headache, and it makes the headache go away, and we accept that. And even though that particular headache is gone, we still keep a stock of pills available. And we never even question why. It is obvious; we keep a stock of pain-relief tablets in case we get another pain later that we need to quickly get rid of. And that, realistically speaking, is OK. We are happy with that.

But let me ask you about another scenario. We get a physical or emotional pain, use EFT on it, and it goes away. Some people then become very surprised if that pain comes back, and then say the EFT did not work. But they are still happy to take a painkiller, even though they have taken many before in their life and the pain came back!

And just like the pain tablets do work, so does EFT!

Additionally, just like the pain may re-appear or a different pain may appear, we think nothing of taking another pain-killer. And so we should think nothing of using EFT again either!

Now, I am neither advocating taking pain-killers nor pushing doing EFT instead of taking a pain-killer. What I am saying here is look at the way we happily consider pain-killers effective, even though we may have to take them again on another occasion, and that we should look at EFT in the same light. Despite whatever anyone promises you about EFT, yes, most of the things that are said about its quickness and effectiveness are totally true, but it is a tool that can be used over and over again for many physical and emotional issues, and it is OK to keep using it on one issue for a few months before a more permanent solution is found. And even then, we are continually exposed to emotional hurt and physical mishaps, so it makes sense that we continue using EFT in our lives; just like most of us use that handy headache tablet.

EFT is a great way to release the vast majority of physical or emotional conditions gently and effectively. If it is new to you, you can download a free guide from many online resources and find out more for yourself. Or you can dive right in and work with an experienced practitioner. For stopping smoking, just click here to get started in minutes!

EFT is a great way to release a phobia gently and effectively. It worked for me. You can download a free guide from many online resources and find out more for yourself. Or you can dive right in and work with an experienced practitioner.

© Suzanne Zacharia 2010. My name is Suzanne Zacharia and I am committed to spreading the word about health options. I believe that the more and better options one has, the more choice there is.

A virus caught along with 5 other students at university at the end of 1986, plus medical negligence, meant that I got smokers lung at a relatively young age. In desperation for help with my symptoms and quality of life, I turned to complementary therapy, and I have outlived one doctor’s prognosis by many years now.

I am now a complementary therapist, author of the Stop Smoking E-book at http://www.stop-smoking-ebooks.com and trainer specializing in energy healing. Want to use this article? You can, as long as you credit me with it and invite your readers to get my FREE book “EFT How-To For You” at http://www.EFT-Scripts.com